Should…such a benign word, but such a pressure-filled one too.
Basically the definition of “should” is the same as “ought to” as in; I ought to schedule that dentist appointment before the end of the month.
Since we were little, our parents were charged with lovingly directing us to all the things we should do. We should brush our teeth before bedtime. We should comb our hair, be polite and not talk to strangers.
When the time for us to start school arrives, our teachers teach us all sorts of new shoulds like you should raise your hand if you have a question or we should play nice with others. When we graduate from school and enter the world of 9-5 jobs, there are some brand new and more complex shoulds involved with this new chapter as well.
As an employed person, we learned that we should arrive to work on time and do our very best during our 8+ hour shift. We learned that we should speak kindly to our coworkers even thought the favor isn’t always returned.
All of these types of “ought tos” are basically necessary life skills that help us make friends, respect other adults, be accountable for our actions and be responsible. These shoulds are valuable, necessary and help us be better human beings.
But, what about the other kind of shoulds?
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