Last week, a post from a type 1 diabetes Facebook group popped into my feed. A mother had posted that her 7thgrade daughter would soon be attending her first school semi-formal and this prompted a conversation about dating. The teenager told her mom she wasn’t planning on dating when she’s older.
When the mother pressed her to explain the daughter replied, “Seriously, mom, who am I going to date? If I go out with another T1D, we’ll burn each other out talking about blood sugars, insulin, stupid random stuff that happens. On the other hand, I don’t want to date someone who knows nothing about type 1 diabetes because I’d have to train them about all the stuff that could go wrong and if something DOES go wrong it might freak them out. And, after all that, they still might not get that diabetes is something I can’t just ignore because I’m with them. It’s just so depressing.”
As I read this, it reminded me of when I was 13 and recently diagnosed with type 1 diabetes. I felt like a black sheep. I was convinced that no guy would want to date me because I’d be such a burden to him. I struggled with this idea throughout my teens and my young adult years.
But today, I’m in my early 30s and my thinking has changed.
I have some advice for this teenager, as well as my 13-year-old self. Here’s what I’ve learned over the years:
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